A pat pat comment is one of those sympathetic, sweet-nothing ones, isn't it? Well, going by this definition, I shall continue my comment.
The weight issue is a common one. My mother is extremely obese, so I see it every day. And so I can relate, regardless of my own body shape.
Self image is a hard thing to give an overhaul. For years I was convinced I'd fallen out of the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down. I grew my hair long so I could hide my face, and prevent other people from being offended by my visage. I wore baggy clothes so no one could say snide remarks about my figure.
I still do all this to some extent (this is relevent, I'm just getting to it!)
You're fine as you are. You know this. You just need your conscious to get into gear and so that the *knowing* that you're fine as you are because second nature, so that the whole trying to avoid notice thing ceases and you can be yourself no matter the location. Eventually, this will happen, probably while you're not looking. Is the making sure you don't relapse that'll be the hard bit.
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Date: 2004-10-22 02:50 am (UTC)The weight issue is a common one. My mother is extremely obese, so I see it every day. And so I can relate, regardless of my own body shape.
Self image is a hard thing to give an overhaul. For years I was convinced I'd fallen out of the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down. I grew my hair long so I could hide my face, and prevent other people from being offended by my visage. I wore baggy clothes so no one could say snide remarks about my figure.
I still do all this to some extent
(this is relevent, I'm just getting to it!)
You're fine as you are. You know this. You just need your conscious to get into gear and so that the *knowing* that you're fine as you are because second nature, so that the whole trying to avoid notice thing ceases and you can be yourself no matter the location. Eventually, this will happen, probably while you're not looking. Is the making sure you don't relapse that'll be the hard bit.